Pamela Lee Flaspohler was born in St. Louis, Mo., to Robert and Jane Weiland. She grew up in Kirkwood and attended Central Methodist University, where she pursued her passion for music and majored in Music Education. While there, she met her husband, Frank; they were married in 1978 and settled down in Fayette, Mo.

When her children attended St. Mary’s Catholic School in Glasgow, Pam became the music teacher there, bringing her love of music to the program and the students. After her children graduated, Pam moved to working in the Conservatory at Central Methodist University, continuing to add music into the lives of others.

After seven years, Pam shifted over to the Prosecuting Attorney’s Office in Boonville, in the family support division, where she aided with child support cases. After almost a decade of serving the Cooper County area, Pam returned to working in Fayette, at her son’s law office, where she could be closer to her family.

Pam was also active in St. Joseph’s Catholic Church, where she shared her gifts of music in both piano accompaniment and voice. For almost 40 years, she brought her love of music to her faith and enhanced the lives of many in the church.

Pam’s faith was very important to her, and she also served as the parish secretary at St. Joseph’s for almost 20 years. She cared very deeply for the local parish and was often involved in the upkeep of the parish, providing flowers for the altar or helping restore the grounds around the church. She often donated her time to help take care of St. Joseph’s and improved the community as a whole.

Pam was also active with the Benedictine Sisters of Perpetual Adoration, in Clyde, Mo., and was on her way to becoming an oblate. She attended several retreats at both Clyde and Conception Abbey and always encouraged others to do the same.

In addition to the retreats, Pam attended daily Mass, at St. Mary’s in Glasgow when available and then at Our Lady of Lourdes in Columbia, Mo. It was always important to her to deepen her faith and love of God. She also cared very deeply for her family, doing all she could for them and always making sure they felt loved.

Surrounded by her family, Pam passed away at the University Hospital in Columbia, Mo., on Saturday, June 22, 2024. Even in death, Pam continued to serve others, donating several of her organs, saving three lives, giving sight to two, and helping countless others.

Pam is survived by her husband Frank W. Flaspohler; her son Frank R. Flaspohler, with his wife Katy Flaspohler and their children Frank K., Gracelyn, Abigail, Eleanor, Henry, and Madison; her daughter Carrie Ariaza, with her husband Christian Araiza and their children Aeris and Xavier Barton, Cheyenne Johnston, Elizabeth Polinski, and Lenore and Addalynn Araiza; her son Tim Flaspohler, with his wife Sabrina Flaspohler and their children Cainen and Cortana Flaspohler; and her daughter Laura Flaspohler, with Brian Nichols; her brother Jeff Weiland, with Davie Dizon; and her mother Jane Weiland. Pam was preceded in death by her father Robert Weiland.

In honor of Pam’s faith and love, the rosary will be prayed on Thursday, June 27, at 4:30 p.m., at St. Joseph’s Catholic Church. The visitation will follow from 5 to 7 p.m. The funeral Mass will be celebrated on Friday, June 28, at 10 a.m., with graveside services to follow. In lieu of flowers, the family requests for donations to be sent to the Benedictine Sisters of Perpetual Adoration in Clyde, Mo.